Tips for Working with Shy Cats

For additional tips, check out: Helping the Shy or Fearful Cat.

• Fearful cats do best in relatively quiet and calm homes.
• Provide your cat with a safe, small, quiet room or space at first. (Check out this article on Cat Confinement in a New Home for more information on the importance of a "safe space.")
• This space can be set up with appropriate hiding places, like a cat tree and cozy blankets.
• Be sure your cat’s space has a litter box within easy reach of the cat, but away from food and water.
• Consider using a Feliway diffuser or spray, which mimics cats' pheromones to help them relax. 
• Avoid staring, direct eye contact or towering over your cat.
• Avoid making loud noises.
• Avoid pulling or forcing your cat out of hiding or to be held (Watch this video on What Consent Looks Like in Cats).
• Speak softly and calmly (Watch this video on How to Use your Voice as a Training Tool).
• Allow your cat to choose to approach or interact — or not (Watch this video on Social Pressure and Animal Interactions).
• Encourage play with interactive toys, such as a cat charmer or feather wand.
• Build confidence and positive interactions through reward-based, force-free training methods (Watch this video on Positive Reinforcement and why you should use it, especially with fearful animals).
• Pair your voice or petting with high-value foods. (Check out this video on Paw Touches to see an example of pairing touch with treats. You can use this same technique for general body handling and petting.)
• Praise and treat to make positive associations with new sights and sounds and for relaxed, calm behavior. (Watch this video on Desensitizing a Kitten to Rain and Thunderstorms to see an example of using treats to create positive associations with new sights and sounds.)
• Never yell or hit your cat, because this will reinforce their fear and could encourage them to become aggressive (Watch this video on Positive Punishment and why you shouldn't use it, especially with fearful animals). Watch this video to learn how to Stop Unwanted Behavior Without Intimidation.
• When your cat is showing signs of exploring, gradually let them explore the rest of the house.

Signs of Stress

Cats can experience stress, anxiety or fear for a wide range of reasons that can vary from loud noises or a new person in their favorite room to ananimal walking outside their home or even if they feel ill. (Watch this short video on Trigger Stacking & Stress Hormones to learn how stress affects our pets.) By watching your cat's body language, you may see certain behaviors that indicate stress. It's also important to understand that some of these behaviors help them cope and can help them calm down.

For more in-depth information on cat body language, check out this B&T Lecture: Can You Speak Dog or Cat?

• Yawning
• Lip licking
• Freezing
• Blinking
• Grooming
• Looking away (avoidance)
• Hiding
• Vocalizing
• Dilated pupils
• Whiskers twitching
• Tail tucking or piloerection (hair standing up)
• Play that's unusual for your cat

Recommended Reading on Cat Behavior

• Feline Body Language Signals — Stress
• “Cat Sense” by John Bradshaw
• “Total Cat Mojo: The Ultimate Guide to Life With Your Cat” by Jackson Galaxy
• “The Trainable Cat: A Practical Guide to Making Life Happier for You and Your Cat” by John Bradshaw and Sarah Ellis

Shy Cat Training Class

San Diego Humane Society offers a live Shy Cat training class over Zoom. This five-week class for owners (we don’t expect your shy cat to attend!) will help you better understand your shy/fearful cat and what makes them different from other cats. You’ll learn exercises to help your cat feel more comfortable and confident in your home, with your presence and with new stimuli (anything they can perceive, hear, smell, see, etc.). This class is designed to move your pet forward each week within your home. Sessions are recorded so you can refer back to the material as needed as you move at your specific cat’s pace. This class is offered every approximately every three months and meets once a week for an hour for five weeks. If this class isn't currently scheduled, join us for one of our other cat classes. Please reach out to us if you have additional questions!